Children today are often more distracted than children were in the past, which is likely a result of having a wide variety of mentally and visually stimulating technological gadgets available; iPhones, computers, handheld games and so on. Before, children played outside, explored nature with friends, took their dogs on walks and socialized before it was time to come in for dinner. When understanding what contributes to raising a healthy child in these changing times, psychologists at Harvard University have found five key elements to raising caring children.

1. Spend Time Developing Loving And Caring Relationships With Your Children

The reason behind this is that children learn how to care for and respect others when they themselves are cared for and treated with respect. When children feel loved by their parents, they develop strong bonds and feelings of attachment to them. This attachment makes them more open and receptive to their parent’s teachings and also to their parent’s values.

While it can be easier to give a child a toy or a game console to keep them busy, and which is not necessarily a bad thing, it’s important to remember that spending quality time with children is one of the most important factors in raising a caring child. Showing love and nurturing their physical and emotional needs, encouraging and honoring their achievements, and taking a genuine interest in their lives are all ways which will wonderfully communicate the love to them that they need from you.

2. Be A Strong And Caring Role Model

It’s true; children learn from our behavior much more than they learn from what we tell them. We can’t yell at and spank our children in one instance, and expect them to be kind and non-violent when dealing with others at school. If we want to raise caring children, we must first model our own behaviors of kindness, compassion and love towards them, and then they will be given what they need to understand and to succeed.

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It’s important to practice honesty, fairness and gentleness in front of our children, and to model the skills of managing anger and peacefully and non-violently solving conflicts. Humility is also a wonderful quality to teach; where we acknowledge our own mistakes and work on them constructively. When we are honest, loving, and keep our personal integrity by doing what we say in front of our children, they will begin to trust us, and after there is trust, children often want to follow our behavior.

3. Make Caring About Others And Showing Kindness A Priority

According to Harvard researchers, “It’s very important that children hear from their parents and caretakers that caring about others is a top priority and that it is just as important as their own happiness. Even though most parents and caretakers say that their children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing that message.”

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Children need to be encouraged to do the right thing even when it isn’t easy, to follow through on what they say they will do, and to keep a kind and respectful attitude even when other children are not behaving in such a way. By maintaining your own inner calm and being kind, understanding, and firm when dealing with your child’s temper tantrums, you set a wonderful example for your children that they will potentially model after you for the rest of their lives; helping to keep themselves calm when dealing with stressful situations and/or stressful people.

4. Give Your Children Opportunities To Practice Caring And Gratitude

Children need to be able to practice developing an attitude of kindness and gratitude, especially to the many people who help them on a daily basis. Harvard researchers found that, “Studies show that people who engage in the habit of expressing gratitude are more likely to be helpful, generous, compassionate, and forgiving—and they’re also more likely to be happy and healthy.”

Try giving children some weekly household duties, appreciate their efforts and praise their uncommon acts of kindness. Practice gratitude with your children, either in the mornings, at dinner, or any time that you see fit. Developing an attitude of gratitude will help your children become happy adults who lead happy lives.

5. Broaden Your Child’s Idea Of Who To Care For

It’s natural for children to love and care for those closest to them; their family and friends, but researchers recommend to help and encourage child to think about those who need their love who are outside of this small circle. Maybe there is a child at school who doesn’t have any friends, who might be bullied, or who has trouble speaking English, and whom your child could help by talking to them more. Researchers also recommend that as our world is becoming more connected and global, it’s important for children to develop concern and compassion for people who live in other cultures and communities.

Raising a caring and compassionate child is no doubt a lot of hard, yet rewarding work, but it’s something that all of us can do. By doing so, we not only are truly caring for and supporting our beloved children, but we are ensuring that they will also help to make the world a kinder and gentler place.

Sources:
https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/parenting-resources-raising-caring-ethical-children/cultivating-empathy
https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-secrets-raising-good-kid-according-harvard-psychologists/
https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/parenting-resources-raising-caring-ethical-children/cultivating-empathy

Anxiety – that feeling of nervousness, worry, fear and panic – is certainly nothing new. Hippocrates spoke of it over 2000 years ago, Soren Kierkegaard also did in the 19^th century, and Sigmund Freud did an in-depth study on its effects and causes in the 1920s.

Now in today’s present time, we’re seeing a reported increase, especially among youth.




Treatment for anxiety has been somewhat manipulated by the pharmaceutical industry, who seeks to push pills rather than recommend other and healthier methods that can be just as or even more effective. Counseling with a licensed psychologist has proven to help relieve anxiety in many cases, as understanding what is at the root of one’s anxiety is often possible and can lead to some relief. Many people also choose the holistic path for healing anxiety, and through yoga, meditation, EFT, massage and other forms of relaxation therapy are able to achieve some calming results. But now very recently, neuroscientists from the United Kingdom have discovered a song that results in an incredible 65 percent reduction in overall anxiety…

Understanding Anxiety and Generation Y:

Anxiety is a feeling of uneasiness, worry, and dread, and is believed to be the mind and the nervous system’s overreaction to a situation that is only subjectively seen as menacing. What follows is muscular tension, fatigue, restlessness and often problems in concentrating.

A 2013 survey found that 57% of women and 40% of men reported experiencing episodes of “overwhelming anxiety” that had occurred within the past year. Around 12% of people experience an anxiety disorder in any given year and between 5%-30% become affected at least once in their life (Craske, 2016). YouthNet also reported that roughly 33% of young women and 10% of young men suffer from panic attacks.

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Many researchers speculate as to why anxiety is on the rise, and their theories range from high pressures in a test based schooling system to the intense percentage of negative reporting done by today’s media and TV News stations; where perceived threats are advertised daily as a way to gain attention thus increasing viewers and of course advertising revenue.

So what can we do to help relieve this anxiety?




Neuroscientists in the U.K. asked the same question and found that certain songs, after multiple tests, reduced anxiety in the participants. The researchers gave participants difficult puzzles to solve as quickly as possible, an activity designed to induce stress, and had them listen to different songs while their brain activity and psychological states were being measured; heart rate, blood pressure and rate of breathing. Their findings indicated that one song in particular: ‘Weightless’ resulted in an enormous 65% reduction in participants’ overall anxiety, as well as a 35% reduction in their average physiological resting rates. This is the most effective relaxation song discovered to date.

What’s surprising is, this song was created for this exact purpose by Marconi Union who collaborated with sound therapists. Each part of the song is carefully arranged with harmonies, rhythms, and bass lines designed to help relax a listener’s heart rate, to help reduce their blood pressure and to lower their levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

Many listeners also reported such relaxation that they became drowsy, so researchers recommend not to listen to it while driving.

Listen to the science proven song of relaxation here and enjoy your body’s relaxation:

Sources:

https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/neuroscience-says-listening-to-this-one-song-reduces-anxiety-by-up-to-65-percent.html

Carolanne Wright and Wake Up World/The Mind Unleashed http://themindunleashed.com/2016/12/neuroscientists-discover-song-reduces-anxiety-65-percent-listen.html

Craske, MG; Stein, MB (24 June 2016). “Anxiety”. Lancet. doi:10.1016/S0140-6736(16)30381-6. PMID 27349358.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/201601/the-rising-epidemic-anxiety-in-children-and-teens