Positive acknowledgment reinforces positive behaviors and boosts family joy.

Multiple studies have shown that affection and warmth between parents and their children are related to higher self-esteem, improved communication, positive coping skills, academic achievement, and fewer psychological and behavioral problems.

Positive reinforcement, which is rewarding a child for positive behavior, is the key to making a warmer relationship with our children.

According to Dr. Erin Leyba, acknowledging a child’s good actions strengthens their intrinsic motivation, and helps them to strive for good feelings, rather than only evading punishment or consequences for undesirable behavior.

Positive reinforcement works best when you:

1. Let Go Of A Hyper Focus On The Negatives.

Constantly giving them negative attention for these behaviors can often serve to reinforce unwanted behavior.

Instead of nagging your child 15 times to brush their teeth, psychologist Dr. Reilly suggests reinforcing the steps leading up to the teeth brushing. “You don’t want to reinforce after the struggle, because then you are reinforcing the struggle itself,” she says. “You want to start noticing and being appreciative of the steps leading up to the teeth brushing so that the whole process is easier.”

Also, sometimes ignoring the negative behavior is the best way to respond.

2. Give Specific Acknowledgments

Telling your little one that he or she is a “good kid” can be unclear and confusing for a child.

Instead, mention the specific wonderful action that your child displayed, such as sharing food with their sibling or friend, or showing kindness to a pet or family member.

“Praising effort and what a child learned along the way is more important than saying ‘You’re so smart.’ It instills in children that hard work is to be celebrated,” explains parenting coach Melanie Rudnick. Dr. Reilly adds that you don’t want your child to feel like she only gets praise if she gets an A on her test.

3. Give Specific Praise As Soon As Possible

Acknowledging your child’s good behavior needs to be done either right after the behavior, or within the day.

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Sometimes have difficulty focusing on the positive when there are also negative behaviors present. This is called the negativity bias; also known as the negativity effect, and refers to the notion that, even when of equal intensity, things of a more negative nature (e.g. unpleasant thoughts, emotions, or social interactions; harmful/traumatic events) have a greater effect on one’s psychological state and processes than do neutral or positive things.

However, hope exists!

“Based on classic marital research of John Gottman, a popular notion exists that interpersonal relationships thrive when the number of positive interactions outweighs negative interactions by a ratio of five to one,” educational specialist of psychology Andrew Armstrong explains.

Simply put, making sure that you give 5 positive comments to every 1 negative comment will not only improve your relationship with your child, but it will also increase their self-worth and self-esteem.

Here are 3 simple routines you can do to catch your kids being good and to help them grow into the beautiful and kind human beings that they are:

1. Post-it Notes

You can surprise your child by putting positive post-it notes in their belongings and around the house which praise the good behavior they did that day or week.

It can be in places where they can easily find them: on their pillow, lunchbox, or on the fridge door.

2. Dinner or Bedtime Review

Even if you have a busy schedule, make it a point during dinnertime or bedtime to talk to your kids about two or three good things they did that day. Make this a habit. Here are some examples:

• “High five to Sara who got up earlier than the rest of us this morning but did it so quietly that she gave everyone a chance to sleep a little later.”

• “John you did a good job today helping dad shovel the snow off the driveway so that we could use our car. That was a lot of hard work!”

• “Because Reina shared her new toys with her brother, she gets a golden star!”

3. In the Moment

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• “Because you helped me set the table for tonight’s dinner, we were able to save time and sit down to eat much faster. Thank you darling!”

• “You were very kind today when running with your friend. He was not able to run as fast as you, so you slowed down and waited for him to catch up, then you ran together.”

• “Wow! You got dressed and ready for school today before 7:30! You are a star!”

It feels better to focus on the positives, for children, and for parent’s too. Try integrating the 5 to 1 positive to negative comment rule this week with your children and see if you notice any wonderful results. If you commit to it long term, you and your children are sure to benefit from it for years to come.

Much love and gratitude.

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“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration.” – Nikola Tesla

“What we have called matter is energy, whose vibration has been so lowered as to be perceptible to the senses. There is no matter.” – Albert Einstein

The Energy, frequency, and vibrations of our known universe are scientific concepts that Nikola Tesla and Albert Einstein formulated theories and agreed upon. To Tesla, anything that exists in the universe depends on these three aspects. To Einstein, “everything in life is vibration.”

Science has proven this fact: All of us are composed of energy pulsating at diverse frequencies.

Cymatics illustrate that when sound frequencies move through a particular medium such as water, air, or sand, they directly alter the vibration of matter.

The word ‘Cymatics’ comes from the Greek word, κῦμα, which means ‘waves’. Vibrations applied to an apparatus which uses solid particles, paste, or liquid, display different patterns because of various levels of frequency.

It is the same effect for the application of sound frequencies on distinct phases of matter. It can be water or form of solids such as sand. Sound frequencies have a direct effect on their formation.

Cymatics

Water memory has also shown the physical alterations our different intentions bring to the crystallization of water. Dr. Masaru Emoto demonstrated this amazing phenomenon through his many experiments showing how intentions through sound, emotions, and thoughts can dramatically alter and shape the way water crystallizes.

In our case, the human body is composed of 70% water. Based on the experiments of Cymatics, it makes sense to assume that sound frequencies, such as music, influences the rhythm and vibration of our body.

Certain emotions, thoughts and even the sounds that we hear can have a type of domino effect on our bodies and on our environment.

Take for example when you are listening to soothing classical music. It puts you in a calm state of mind and everything else follows. Your mood changes in an effective way which influences how you treat others and the things you do. It is vibration through sound generating responses in your body.

Music Frequency

Our universe has natural vibrations resonating everywhere and around us.

Most music worldwide has been tuned to 440 Hz, starting when the International Standards Organization (ISO) promoted it in 1953.

The frequency of the natural world and the universe measures at 432 Hz. This difference in frequencies may have negative effects on our individual performance, how we conduct ourselves toward others, and our emotions,

Mathematics of The Universe

Cymatics utilizes 432 Hz, which shows the creation of beautiful patterns manifested on particles and fluids.

Such frequency echoes with the golden ratio of the sun and its equinox, the moon, and even great ancient structures believed to be sacred sites: The Great Pyramid of Egypt, the Stonehenge, and the Sri Yantra to name a few.

“From my own observations, some of the harmonic overtone partials of A=432hz 12T5 appear to line up to natural patterns and also the resonance of solitons. Solitons need a specific range to form into the realm of density and span from the micro to the macro cosmos. Solitons are not only found in water mechanics, but also in the ion-acoustic breath between electrons and protons.”

~Brian T. Collins

Color Spectrum Resonance

Another interesting factor to consider is that 432 Hz tuning correlates with the color spectrum and chakra system, while 440 Hz does not.

“All of the frequencies in the spectrum are related in octaves, from gamma rays to subharmonics. These colors and notes are also related to our Chakras and other important energy centers. If we are to understand that… Chakras are connected to the Seven Rays of the Solar Spectrum, then the notes and frequencies we use for the same should be the same. A432 Hz is the tuning of the Cosmic Keyboard or Cosmic Pitchfork, as opposed to the A440 Hz modern ‘standard.’ It places C# at 136.10 Hz ‘Om,’ which is the main note of the Sitar in classical Indian music and the pitch of the chants of the Tibetan monks, who tell us, ‘It comes from nature.’”

~Dameon Keller

Exploring The Difference

So, what is the difference between A=440 Hz and A=432 Hz?

Music enthusiasts and artists discovered that music felt more soothing and harmonious when set at 432Hz, and it also induces an inward focus of feeling and reflection felt in the spine and the heart. Music set to 440Hz induced a more mental and outward experience, felt mostly in the head. Audio professionals have also explained that 432Hz music can ‘fill an entire room easier’ whereas 440Hz is more linear and directional in sound propagation.

“The ancients tuned their instruments at an A of 432 Hz instead of 440 Hz – and for a good reason. There are plenty of music examples on the internet that you can listen to, in order to establish the difference for yourself. Attuning the instrument to 432 Hz results in a more relaxing sound, while 440 Hz slightly tenses up to body. This is because 440 Hz is out of tune with both macrocosmos and microcosmos. 432 Hz on the contrary is in tune. To give an example of how this is manifested microcosmically: our breath (0,3 Hz) and our pulse (1,2 Hz) relate to the frequency of the lower octave of an A of 432 Hz (108 Hz) as 1:360 and 1:90.”
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“The overall sound difference was noticeable, the 432 version sounding warmer, clearer and instantly sounded more listenable but the 440 version felt tighter, with more aggressive energy.”
~Anonymous guitarist

A statement from innergarden.org says that adjusting your instrument at 432 Hz ‘results in a more relaxing sound’ and attuned to both macro and microcosmos, while 440 Hz ‘slightly tenses up the body’ and not in tune to macro and microcosmos.

They also gave a microcosmic example of the harmony of 432 Hz to human processes such as our breathing patterns at 0,30 Hz and our pulse at 1,2 Hz.

The video below was created by an opinion neutral creator testing to see whether A=432 Hz or A=440 Hz is better. It’s up to us to decide:

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Here are two more examples:

David Helpling –Sticks and Stones in 440 Hz
David Helpling –Sticks and Stones in 432 Hz

Reflective Thoughts

While many of us have enjoyed the sounds of music tuned at 440 Hz from numerous bands and artists, the profound difference cannot be denied when comparing the gentleness and calm felt from music tuned to 432 Hz.

Music at 440 Hz is more linear and more focused on the mind rather than the heart, inducing a small and subtle tension.

“Music based on C=128hz (C note in concert A=432hz) will support humanity on its way towards spiritual freedom. The inner ear of the human being is built on C=128 hz.”
~Rudolph Steiner

While we cannot assert that every idea presented in this article is 100% scientifically accurate, the frequencies which we decide to program our audio devices within our culture does have an effect on our bodies, emotions and mental state, and this is good cause for further research with open minds.

We all have our own intuition and the ability to observe without judgment, so take a second and experience the difference between A=440 Hz and A=432 Hz. Listen with your entire body and a relaxed, neutral awareness, rather than with our preconceived notions, mental ideas, or judgments.

Let us know if this frequency resonates with you.

Do you want to learn how to change your music’s pitch to A=432 Hz? Watch this video to learn how.

Source: Elina St-Onge at http://www.collective-evolution.com/2016/07/11/this-is-why-you-should-consider-changing-the-frequency-of-your-music-when-listening-to-it/

Who are you based on the first word you see?

It’s an old saying, “We see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear,” but the reality is that we tend to gravitate towards and see things which match our emotional state and way of thinking. If we are feeling happy one day, then we may tend to see happy things around us; we see the person walking their cute puppy down the street and think about how cute it is, or we may pick up on someone smiling and smile in return. On the other hand, if we aren’t feeling good, we can focus on things that are not visually appealing: we may see the muddy water running down the side of the street and think how yucky it looks, or we may notice some discarded trash laying around, further adding to our experience of unhappiness.

We unconsciously attract to ourselves things that align with our feelings, thinking, personality, traits, goals, and wants. Our perception of our world reflects on who we are as an individual.

Look at the picture and remember the first word you see, then read below to find out what it means:

What is the first word you see?

#1 Trust

If the word Trust caught your eye, then you are a trustworthy person and others tend to confide in you. Your friends and family know they can divulge their secrets or problems to you without having to feel judged or that you will pass them on without their permission.

You are the kind of person who values privacy, which gives the people who know you a sense of security and calm. You are reliable to others and your actions match your words. Aside from that, you are also a very trusting person, you believe what others tell you and often give them the benefit of the doubt.

#2 Love

If love is the word that caught your attention, you are a person whose heart overflows with love and you see loving experiences everywhere you go. You have a very kind and warm personality and you generously share it with others.

To you, love conquers all, and it matters more than anything else. Your love is deep and pure and not a lot of people can love unconditionally like you do.

#3 Kind

Those who practice genuine kindness are truly people to be valued in life. If this was the first word that caught your eye, then you are one of the treasured people who possess this wonderful skill and ability. Kind people like you make the world go round.

You may not always receive the same treatment from others that you give, but that is the essence of kindness, you do not expect anything in return. Yet you will find that those around you will answer you with kindness when you find yourself needing it the most.

#4 Wise

True wisdom stems from an individual’s willingness to understand and learn rather than judge.

If you saw the word ‘Wise’ first, you are the kind of person who would prefer to probe deeper into your thoughts than to make quick judgments about people and life; a beautiful habit. You often ponder and reflect on the essence of life and its deeper meaning.

#5 Compassion

If compassion is the first word that caught your attention, then you have a beautiful heart and it has been called to help serve the world.

You see the humanness is all people, and you see the life in all living things.  You love others as your self, and when someone is struggling or in need, your heart goes out to them. Others may not always recognize your value, but you are truly a blessing to anyone who is lucky enough to have you as a friend or family member. When you choose to follow your heart, great things happen in your life; both for you and for those around you.

#6 Loyal

Did you see Loyal first? If so, loyalty is your driving force. Loyalty matters a lot to you, and it can be used to describe you as well.

You stay away from people who are unreliable or don’t usually keep their word. Loyalty takes time to build and once you establish it with someone, you value staying faithful and reliable whether it be your significant other, your family, or your friends. A loyal friend is one of the best things to have, and the people around you can depend on you when they really need it.

#7 Truth

The truth will set you free, but many of us can be uneasy about always facing the truth. If this was the word that you saw, you are a person who persists in looking for and upholding the truth you know. You are a person who seeks deeply within themselves for answers about life and have found that being deeply honest within helps you to find clarity within your own experience.

You are straightforward and forthright in what you say. To you, it is better to say what is true, no matter what the case may be, rather than give out false assurances in the form of sweet lies. When you stay true to your heart, you are bound to discover the deep meaning of life.

#8 Honest

Among all other words, Honest was the one you saw first. This means you have a truthful and sincere personality. You are genuine and frank when it comes to relating to other people. You value honesty and you know what it takes to maintain being an honest person.

You are able to accept yourself for who you are, and as you are; strengths and flaws together. This enables you to open up and to be honest with yourself and with others. You are an honest person in your core and you stay steadfast in this virtue, your personality is unparalleled.